Solar-Saturn in Synastry
My first ex boyfriend and I had sturdy Saturn features in our synastry chart. It made whole sense, given the truth that Saturn was transiting my seventh home on the time. Extra particularly, my Saturn was conjunct his Solar in Scorpio. My most up-to-date ex had his Solar in Aquarius sq. my Saturn in Scorpio. By the way, he had Saturn transiting his seventh home after we have been collectively.
Solar-Saturn features in synastry are apparently quite common features to search out within the synastry charts of married {couples} and long-term companions. Certainly, my relationships with these two lasted fairly just a few years, but it surely wasn’t with out issue.
Because the Saturn individual, I felt each insecure and dedicated to every of them. Every one among them introduced out a lot of my insecurities. Simply by being themselves and expressing their individuality, my fears of rejection and getting harm surfaced. In response, I criticized them and judged them harshly. I wished to dominate them, management them, and stomp on their enjoyable. I did not need them to “develop”, as a result of I used to be too afraid they might develop other than me.
Another excuse I used to be so vital of those two guys was as a result of I genuinely thought their concepts, emotions, and beliefs have been extremely silly. Sounds harsh, I do know, however a few of their opinions and beliefs merely pissed me off. As an alternative of calmly voicing my very own opinions, I insulted theirs. This, in flip, discouraged them drastically, however I felt I used to be doing them a favor. After I look again, I do know I used to be a bit too harsh with them, however I felt (and STILL really feel) they have been infantile and wanted an excellent actuality verify.
The Solar-Saturn vitality in synastry is very like the vitality between a mother or father and little one. In these two relationships, I felt that I used to be scolding my misbehaving kids.
I used to be already into astrology once I met the Aquarius man, so I knew this vitality would manifest in our relationship someway. I attempted my greatest to maintain my Saturnian vitality in verify, however when it got here all the way down to it, I merely could not assist however criticize him. Belief me- I attempted.
Moon-Saturn features in Synastry
I not too long ago got here out of a relationship that had a Moon-Saturn opposition double-whammy. By “double-whammy”, I imply his Moon opposed my Saturn and his Saturn opposed my Moon. How does this side play out between two folks, you could ask? Let me let you know.
The best way it manifested in my relationship was by means of main emotional distancing. Him and I’d do something to keep away from speaking about our emotions. Even when issues arose which made both of us really feel offended, aggravated, jealous, or pissed off, we might not, and COULD not, voice our emotions to 1 one other. I felt that if I informed him how I felt, he would reject me, and he felt the identical means. Despite the fact that I knew he had true emotions for me, self-doubt and worry of rejection would take over, and I would find yourself preserving my emotions to myself. The identical went for affection; affection didn’t movement simply between us attributable to deep-seated fears of rejection, which was in the end irritating for each events. Additionally, neither of us ever felt we might specific our playful, romantic sides round each other; I felt he wouldn’t approve of any type of childishness from me, so I saved my mouth shut.
On the constructive facet, this relationship is specific was my longest. I believe one of many issues that made us final so lengthy was the need to search out out what the opposite individual felt. The emotional distancing each pissed off and intrigued me. I wished to know what was in his coronary heart, and he was dying to understand how I felt. We each hung in there, hoping that sooner or later, one among us would say how we actually felt about each other. After some time, we discovered to specific our emotions to 1 one other, however solely in small segments. We have been each cautious to by no means uncover “an excessive amount of” about the way in which we felt.
Venus-Saturn in Synastry
My longest relationship featured a decent Saturn sq. Venus side in synastry, whereby I used to be the Venus individual.
That is typically often known as the “unrequited love” side. Why? Saturn represents blockages and restrictions, which might manifest in lots of types. Generally, the blockages come from exterior forces. Saturn guidelines custom, so {couples} with this synastry side typically face opposition from both individual’s household. In my case, I used to be of a special cultural background than my associate. His dad and mom have been very conventional and strict, and would have by no means have permitted of our union. Different exterior restrictions can embody a mismatch by way of age, social standing, cultural background, or distance. Both means, there’s normally one thing in the way in which of you being collectively.
One other means by which this manifested was by means of a withdrawal of affection. I by no means felt fairly comfy cuddling him, telling him I cherished him, or making child speak with him attributable to my worry that he would reject that type of conduct. I censored my emotions of affection for him, and he did the identical. He acted considerably “fatherly” in direction of me, and I did not wish to threat his disapproval. Although he by no means explicitly informed me he did not need me to exit and have enjoyable with my pals, he would typically attempt to intrude with my plans if he knew I used to be going out.
Mars-Saturn in Synastry
This can be a very unfavorable side to share with somebody in synastry.
With this side, plainly it doesn’t matter what the Mars individual does, the Saturn individual is concerned. Nothing is ever “adequate” for Saturn. The Saturn individual normally sees the Mars individual as infantile and irresponsible. The Mars individual’s vitality is the kind that makes the Saturn individual very uncomfortable. Extra particularly, the Mars individual’s self-confidence and assertiveness brings out Saturn’s insecurities, and in response, the Saturn individual makes an attempt to limit and restrict the Mars individual’s actions by telling Mars what to do. Saturn might resort to continually tearing the Mars individual down by means of criticism and psychological abuse.
It’s common for Mars to really feel Saturn is condescending and treats Mars like a baby. Mars might turn out to be offended with this and lash out on the Saturn individual. The cycle of criticism and battle can quickly turn out to be a vicious cycle. This side lends itself to verbally abusive relationships, and may even escalate into bodily aggression.
Since Mars is the planet of intercourse and bodily vitality, this side may manifest into sexual issues for the couple. Saturn might discover the intercourse disillusioned, and Mars might sense this, and lose their sexual confidence. That is a side typically discovered within the synastry charts of sexless marriages.
